You guys, there’s a reason why an actual book exists in this world that’s called When Parents Text.Something strange happens when teens and parents try to communicate via text message.
Lines are blurred.
Intentions are misunderstood.
Typos abound… ESPECIALLY when emojis are involved!
For all the moms and dads out there who have ever misused one of these handy symbols—and immediately received a reply along the lines of “Are you serious??” followed by hundreds of emojis laugh-crying their little cartoon eyes out—I’ve created a handy introductory tool that practically guarantees your future texting success. I say “practically” because, well, some of those guys still trip me up too! So consider this my absolute best-educated guess, and for further study, check out this handy (and hysterical) resource.
Now read up, flex those fingers, and let your thumbs fly across the surface of your phone with confidence. You have totally got this!
At this point in our Rush 101 Series, we’ve covered the following: Recruitment packets, letters of recommendation, and the all-important resume. Don’t get me wrong—I have loved delving into each and every one of these important-and-informative guidelines with you. But today’s topic gets me just a teensy bit more excited. Why? Because we’re talking all things fashion. And because I knew we’d be talking about fashion, I got to do a little online shopping (ahem: style hunting) and file it under the category of “research” this week. Just one more reason why I’ll never stop using the hashtag #ilovemyjob. (Like, ever.)
Back on track: To keep things organized, I’ve split up outfit suggestions according to a typical recruitment schedule. I say “typical” because not every university’s Greek system will operate this way. However, even if your campus nixes skit day and subs in, say, a day of crafts, the same dress code is still likely to apply. As always, check with your campus Panhellenic organization before recruitment begins to make sure you’ve got their unique guidelines covered from head to toe! Literally.
OPEN HOUSE: The most casual day of sorority recruitment. Expect the current members of each sorority house to be wearing matching t-shirts. As for you? Some campuses will give each of the Potential New Members (that’s you!) a matching shirt to wear as well. Otherwise, stick to something in the casual-cute family—similar to what you’d wear to senior picnic or brunch with friends. A sundress, slim pants and a flowy top, gladiators or flats, and a stack of bangles will do the trick.
PHILANTHROPY DAY: A maxi topped off by a denim jacket and paired with wedges will fit the bill nicely. Come prepared to listen and learn about which organization is closest to each sorority’s heart!
SKIT NIGHT: Semi-formal is the name of the game. Not quite a cocktail dress, not quite what you’d wear to church on Sunday, but somewhere in between. A more structured dress or a pair of patterned billowy pants accented by heels would both be great.
*NOTE: If you love wearing heels, don’t be afraid to rock them on any of the days of recruitment! But DO exchange them for a pair of flats or flip-flops every time you’re walking between houses. Trust me, those toes are going to be screaming by the end of each night if you forget your back-up pair.
PREFERENCE: Break out the cocktail wear! A cute LBD, a colorful frock, or a dress accented by an understated pattern will work well. Avoid ultra-formal wear, i.e. anything with too many feathers, sparkles, or a floor-length hemline.
BID DAY: Today’s the day! You’re finally receiving your bid card…and most likely a t-shirt from your dream chapter! Put on your favorite denim shorts to ensure a perfect match when you exchange your top for your new sorority colors.
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May is upon us and you know what that means: Summer break is not far behind. (I just really felt the need to italicize that—can I get an amen?). But before I get too caught up in thoughts of dipping my toes in the pool with a cool drink in hand, I wanted to check in and see how thatjournal project I proposed last month is going and give you a few words of encouragement to help you see it through!
Since this idea was inspired by a real-life gift that one of my friends received from her mom, I thought it would be pretty cool to share a few words from her perspective that show just how much that journal really meant:
“It was truly priceless. I live for words of affirmation and reading what my mom wrote, in her own handwriting, was something that helped get me through those first few days and weeks of college. I just appreciated the time that went into it because she started it near the end of my junior year and kept it up all the way through graduation. It was such a blessing to me, knowing that not only was she living those experiences with me, she was taking the time to record them; little things that honestly I didn’t even remember until I read them! She taped in inspirational sayings, devotional excerpts, and Bible verses that were such a source of encouragement for me. I went back to them over and over whenever I needed a lift. Those clippings were doubly sweet because my grandmother used to do the same thing for my mom—she would cut out little articles from the newspaper that she felt my mom would appreciate. I felt so overwhelmed with love and connected to these two women I love so much through this gift, and I’m pretty sure I’ll be doing the same thing with my child one day!”
Feeling inspired yet? I hope so! And as I said in the last post, all this project really takes is a journal and a pen and a little time. Simplicity, you’re calling our names! So, take pen in one hand and coffee in the other and let’s dive into a few additional prompts.
What are your child’s particular strengths? How have you seen your child apply those strengths this year?
Everyone has a “go to” style or article of clothing that they wear on a regular basis. What is your child most likely to be sporting? Can you recall a particular event that they got all dressed up for? One day this entry will help them remember those “crazy” fashions they used to think were so cool! (Looking at you, ultra flare jeans.)
Catalogue some of the songs they’ve played most often throughout the year, then include a few titles from YOUR favorite playlist as a high school senior.
Sometimes our children think we’re bullet proof. Take the “pressure to be perfect” off your teen by sharing a personal struggle you had as a high school senior…and a few thoughts on how time has put that challenge into perspective.
Tell your child how much you admire them when they [fill in the blank].
Consider asking family and friends to write a short little love note that you can include.
Affirm, affirm, AFFIRM who they are—the unique, wonderful, crazy, awesome person that you know them to be now and who you believe they will grow to be in the future!
There you have it—seven more suggestions for continuing your journal project. PS: If you’re one of my newsletter subscribers you got this prompt a little early:
What hard-earned wisdom and/or advice would you give your 17-year-old self?
So many things came to mind as I thought through that prompt—most of them along the lines of “How Not to Sweat the Small Things.” AKA, how to hold on to the truth that everything really will turn out just fine no matter what my circumstances look like. Whatever you choose to write about, I hope it turns out to be a treasure-filled binder that will bless your child in ways that are far too many to count!
I’ve said it here before and I’ll say it again: Life happens FAST. When I look back on some of the pictures of the amazing seniors I’ve had the privilege of photographing over the last few years, I’m blown away that many of those precious guys and girls are now young adults successfully making their way in the world. I love it and hate it at the same time!
I love that life can be so good and that we can be so in the moment that we totally lose track of time. On the other hand, I hate it because—blink!—it’s MAY and that means another school year has come and (almost) gone, another group of outstanding seniors are about to graduate, and I think, “How is it possible I’m shopping for graduation gifts? Wasn’t I wrapping Christmas presents just a couple of weeks ago?” But I know it must be true because I keep seeing graduation party odds and ends everywhere I go. So, I’m snapping out of my time fog and thinking today would be a great day to brainstorm some ways to create a killer party for that special senior in your life!
Step One: Set The Date!
The first course of action is to get that party on the calendar and to do it ASAP. Why? Because every other mom in the Dallas/Fort Worth area is doing the exact same thing, and that means you may find yourself competing for the date you want. So here’s a thought to consider: ask your senior if they’d like to combine their party with a friend (or two). The saying “the more the merrier” is absolutely true in this case. Graduating is a major accomplishment, and gathering friends and family together for the common purpose of celebrating is nothing short of pure fun. And, because your child and his or her friends most likely run in the same circles, their party can become a one-and-done fiesta for all!
Step Two: Have Your Senior Create a Wish List
Next, sit down with your senior and put together a personal wish list/graduation registry of sorts so that when you’re asked (for the umpteenth time), “What would Suzie like/need/adore for graduation?” you are good to go with a plethora of ideas! One can only use so many monogrammed paperweights, you know.
Step Three: Set the Mood With Food
As for what to serve, well, you know this better than anyone: teenagers LOVE TO EAT and they’re usually not too picky. With that in mind, a Giant Sub made-to-order from Subway is a super easy way to provide for those always-ravenous kiddos and their friends. A nice extra touch is to get small cakes in a variety of flavors for each of the grad honorees at the party. Nothing Bundt Cakes has tons of delicious options, or you can order petit fours or cupcakes and have them decorated with each senior’s name as a special touch.
Step Four: Make Your Décor Pull Double-Duty
Decorating does not have to be daunting. I suggest gathering up some of their favorite items that speak to who they are and what they enjoy—think letter jackets, trophies, art work, musical instruments, and so on. Display these items along with a bulletin board filled with photos of some of their most stand-out senior moments and voila! You. Are. Done. Bonus: Decorate that bulletin board in the colors of their future university so that your soon-to-be college freshman can put it to use in their future dorm room!
Step Five: Get Custom From Beginning to End
Fun fact: Love Me, Photography can create all of your custom graduation announcements, party invitations, and thank you cards in order to give your event a completely branded look that captures the spirit of your amazing grad! (Yes, even if you’re running super behind!) The end of the school year is stressful enough as it is. I would love to take some pressure off your shoulders and help you create something totally unique using their senior portraits!
No matter what you do to honor that super wonderful grad of yours, I know it will be special and memorable. Grad parties are so much more than Pinterest-perfect decorations and tasty bites and treats, although those things can be fun. It’s about creating a wonderful, memory-filled moment full of love and laughter alongside your senior, and NOTHING can compete with that gift!
So, you finally found the perfect shoes to match that dress you’ve had hanging in your closet for WEEKS now, your hair + make-up style has been meticulously chosen (did you use any of our tips?? We want to see!!), and you have a killer date (girlfriends totally count)… you know what you’re missing?
The tunes to get you and your girls dancing and singing while you spend your day primping and pampering!
The latest in LMP Radio is your Prom Playlist. Tell us what you think on Twitter and Instagram with the hashtag #LMPRadio! Have any requests for next month? We want to hear them.. or read them !
April is flying by, meaning a super-significant event in the lives of all my favorite seniors is just around the corner: prom! By this point I’m thinking you may have snagged the perfect gown, but I’m guessing that all things makeup-and-hair are still up in the air. Whether you’re going glam, classic, boho, or somewhere in between, our team has compiled three prom-spiration boards that are sure to resonate!
Look 1: Glamorous Up-Do
Your gown is glittering, you’re wearing four-inch heels, your clutch is covered in Swarovski crystals, and your earrings are shaped like chandeliers. One: We SO feel your style, girl. Two: We see an up-do as the perfect accent for all that gorgeousness.
Is a chiffon dress in icy blue à la Grace Kelly calling your name? We’ve got a few ideas when it comes to your mane. Think soft, beachy waves worn either up or down—the calling card of every Greek goddess.
Feel like going for a DIY ‘do? We’re so glad to hear it! Here’s a half-up, half-down tutorial + a few words of advice from LMP’s resident photo shoot stylist, Monica!
No doubt that prom is one of the best nights of your life and should be absolutely perfect….just like you! Whether you want to glam it up or stick close to what your normal make-up routine is everyday, there are a few tips that will help you look picture perfect for prom night.
Decide what your focus will be…your eyes or your mouth, and pick one of those to play up. One of the most common mistakes ladies make is highlighting both features. Pick the one people compliment you on the most and then go for it! If you want the focus on your lips, you’ll want to go bright. Red and dark pinks are great choices for prom, keeping your eye makeup soft and simple.
If you want to focus on your eyes, go all out with a heavier liner, bold, sparkly shadows (Urban Decay has some amazing colors) and false eyelashes. Brows are also a HUGE component, whichever route you choose! Whether you’re wearing soft eye makeup or decide to be daring, a well-defined brow makes the biggest difference. My favorite eyebrow products are by Anastasia and can be purchased at Ulta. If you’re unsure about applying the products or what you need, ask a salesperson to help and they will be happy to pick the perfect color for you and show you how to use them to frame your eyes to perfection!
Keep your foundation simple and make sure to choose a shade that closely matches your skin tone, blending well along the jawline. Finish with powder to keep the shine away. Urban Decay and Tarte both make BB creams that I absolutely love and create a beautiful finish! Loreal Magic Nude Liquid Powder is a less expensive favorite and gives a flawless look as well.
Depending on your look, the cheek color should be natural (with a smoky eye) or a dewy, darker pink (with a natural eye). Nars is my personal favorite brand (it can be purchased at Sephora).
The weeks before prom can be a crazy time and there are so many choices to make, from hair and makeup, to the perfect dress and shoes. There’s no one “right or wrong” way to do everything and ultimately, no matter how you style yourself, the most important thing to do is have fun and dance the night away!
For more beauty-related tips and tricks, be sure to snag a copy of our digital Hair + Makeup guide! We can’t wait to see those prom pictures start rolling in!
I heard a beautiful story the other day that included a brilliant idea I simply couldn’t wait to pass on to my LMP mommas. Ready to hear it?
Once upon a time, a momma started a journal at the beginning of her daughter’s senior year and continued writing entries in it through graduation day. She included the highs and lows of her daughter’s year, verses of Scripture, inspirational thoughts she came across, and reflections of her own that she wanted to pass on for posterity. She also cut out articles she thought would be beneficial and pasted in photos she knew her daughter would treasure. And then she wrapped up that little journal book in gorgeous paper and presented it to her beloved daughter as a graduation present. The daughter said that it was absolutely one of her favorite gifts ever; that it wasn’t just a journal with lined paper and words tied up with pretty ribbon but her mom’s heart—written on each and every page—that was placed in her hands. I don’t know about you, but I’m crying my eyes out over here as I recount it to you! This particular gift stands out as such an amazing expression of love and commitment to me because, let’s face it, time can be at a premium senior year. From what I hear, just remembering to write a grocery list is cause for a pat on the back…am I right?
With that in mind, rather than laying a guilt trip on you—and, as we all know, there’s no guilt like mommy guilt!— I’m here instead to encourage my LMP mommas to take that idea and make it their own. So what if it’s April and you’ve only got a few weeks left? Start now and call your journal “Final Thoughts on Your Senior Year,” or something to that effect. The point to me (and one I hope to remember when my babies are looking at senior year…yikes!) is for our children to have, in our own words and handwriting, thoughts that will be preserved long after they’re grown and gone.
Okay, Kleenex used. Back on task. “Where do I begin?” you might ask. Here’s my answer: purchase that journal, pick up a pen, and get started with these prompts:
What would you say to your 18-year-old self? What are some of the things you know now that you wish you’d known then? Chances are your 18-year-old son or daughter will benefit from hearing those pearls of wisdom too.
Do you have favorite Bible verses or inspirational adages that have served you well through the years? I bet your teen will find them inspirational as well. Jot them down along with a memory of a time the words encouraged you.
Remember those Instagram photos of senior year I’ve been encouraging you to snap and post? Have them printed at CVS and paste them into your journal along with a note about why they’re among your favorites.
LMP mommas, if you haven’t noticed by now, I’m all about your senior guys and girls. I’m also always looking for ways to encourage and equip them for life beyond high school because, well, I just really love them! But I know that no one, and I mean no one, can love them like you do. I don’t think you have to be the next great American novelist to let them know how you feel, though; being their momma is great enough. And I feel confident that whatever you write, it will be noteworthy.
So pick up that ballpoint pen and see where you inner author takes you!
Welcome back to Love, Me Photography’s Rush 101 series! We’re continuing our conversation about all things sorority recruitment with today’s post on creating the perfect resume. If you’re new to the blog and feeling a little overwhelmed by all the Alpha-Delta-Kappa-Panhellenic terminology, be sure to swing by the first installment of our series: The Recruitment Information Packet. All set? Let’s dive right in by breaking down a standard resume section by section!
SECTION 1: THE BASICS
Note: “The Basics” should always be listed at the top of your resume. Put your name front and center, and make sure that it stands out. This can be accomplished by bolding your name, increasing the font size, or both! You can also get creative with your font style, but remember that readability is the most important thing. You don’t want everyone calling you Kelly if your name is actually Kylie. Just saying. Include the rest of The Basics (i.e. your name, address, home and cell number, and email) right below.
SECTION 2: EDUCATION
Graduating High School [include address]
GPA [weighted and un-weighted]
Dual Credit/AP Courses
Note: Keep this section (and the next one) simple by just entering the necessary data. No explanations required!
SECTION 3: PERSONAL INFORMATION
College Attending [include address]
Class and Year [freshman 2015, sophomore 2015, etc]
Mother [include her name, college, major, and occupation]
Father [include his name, college, major, and occupation]
SECTION 4: HONORS AND AWARDS
Example: Cheerleader of the Year (11, 12)—Nominated by my cheerleading coach and the school’s Athletic Director.
Note: Go on girl, show off all that hard work! DO include every scholastic and extracurricular achievement you can think of this side of high school along with a short description. DON’T dig back into the elementary school archives. (Even though I personally think it’s amazing that you won the title of “fastest girl” in the fourth grade, it probably won’t come up in conversation during any of your sorority house visits.)
SECTION 5: LEADERSHIP ROLES
Example: Features Editor, Mane Event Newspaper (12)—Wrote copy for Features section of school newspaper, sold ads to local businesses, and edited classmates’ work prior to publication.
Note: Leadership roles are so(ooo) important to include on your resume. As a member of a sorority, you’ll have the opportunity to lead philanthropy events, plan mixers with other Greek groups, and so much more—current members want to know that you’re up to the task of stepping into a leadership position within the chapter one day!
SECTION 6: HOBBIES + INTERESTS
Church Youth Group
SECTION 7: COMMUNITY INVOLVEMENT
Boys and Girls Club Volunteer
Elementary School Tutor
Volunteer at Children’s Medical Center—Demonstrated crafts on weekends and visited patients in their rooms.
Note: Descriptions aren’t always necessary for Section 7 and Section 8. Only include them if you feel that an activity or interest requires a little extra context.
SECTION 8: EMPLOYMENT
Example: Bob’s Snow Cone Stand (Grades 8-12)—Started as assistant and worked up to Head Manager by end of senior year.
Note: Don’t forget to include the length of time you’ve worked for each employer + a brief description. PS: Yes, babysitting counts!
SECTION 9: GREEK AFFILIATIONS
Jane Doe, Mother: Delta Gamma, Eta Alpha Chapter, Pepperdine University ‘88
Jim Doe, Father: Delta Sigma Phi, Lambda Chapter, North Carolina State ‘87
Jenna Doe, Sister: Delta Delta Delta, Beta Phi Chapter, University of Oklahoma ‘14
Note: Sororities will look at this section to find out if you’re a legacy (i.e., if you have family ties to one or more sorority houses). Be sure to include each member of your family’s graduating college, sorority or fraternity, chapter name (if you know it), and pledge year.
Still feeling a little stumped when it comes to laying out, printing out, and sending out your resume and the rest of your packet? Girlfriend, we have got you covered. Click below for not one, but TWO sample templates that are 100% free and available for you to download and customize! The first template (which includes a cover letter, sample resume, return address sticker, and photo label) was made using Word, meaning it does not require any special editing software in order for you to make it your own. The second template (which features a blank cover letter, sample resume, return address sticker, photo label, AND an adorable folded thank you card) is a PDF, meaning you will need a program such as Adobe Acrobat Pro in order to drop in your own monogram, name, and other customizations.
If you use either of our templates, we’d love to know about it! Be sure to tag a photo of your finished Recruitment Information Packet with #LMPrushcrush—we promise to return the favor in the form of likes, comments, and/or emojis with heart-shaped eyes. #sorrynotsorry
So, LMP mommas, now that Spring Break 2015 is a memory of the past and our calendars all officially say “April” at the top (March, where did you go?), today we’re talking about all things Easter!
If you and your family enjoy old movies and haven’t seen the MGM classic musical Easter Parade, I highly recommend renting it this week. One of the most famous songs featured in the movie has these lyrics:
“In your Easter bonnet, with all the frills upon it / You’ll be the grandest lady in the Easter parade.”
I love it! It sets the tone for today’s blog post perfectly as it recalls those sweet memories of dressing up for Easter. Of course, Easter Sunday is clearly about so much more than what we wear. Still, there’s something about the time-honored tradition of dressing up in our very best frocks-and-frills and parading down Fifth Avenue (ahem…the aisles of our churches) just like Judy Garland.
Today, I still get excited about the “What are you wearing for Easter?” question. And why wouldn’t I? I was trained to look forward to this moment from a young age! I can remember the excitement of going shopping for “the dress” with my mom and ultimately choosing pastel or floral dresses adorned with big lace collars, hats with ribbon hanging down the back, white gloves with little pearl buttons (yes, gloves, thank you very much) and absolutely loving every minute! The prep that took place the night before Easter was no small task either, and included pink sponge rollers and a swipe of polish on my nails. And then there were the boys who looked oh-so-uncomfortable in Sunday School thanks to their slicked back hair, jackets, and clip-on bowties. Oh, the joy of it all! (And let’s NOT talk about how my brother and I looked like we were dressed as characters from the It’s a Small World ride at Disney World… or the fact that we look less-than-thrilled about not being barefoot…)
All of this—the sweet moments from my childhood and the new memories I’ll make in just a few short days with my girls—is so special to me. Which makes me wonder…do you feel the same way, LMP mommas? Did you take your daughter or son (bless his heart) shopping for that perfectly cute Easter outfit and then take a photograph or twenty afterward? Or maybe you spent hours dyeing and hiding the most gorgeous Easter eggs imaginable, and then proceeded to forget about them until the “I haven’t taken out the garbage in months” scent kicked in?
Whatever your memories are, I want to hear all about them—and being a photographer, naturally I want to see photos as well! Please join me in the LMP Easter Memories campaign by posting photos to your Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter accounts along with a sweet memory or two. Be sure to include the hashtag #LMPEasterMemories and encourage other mommas to “hop” in on our conversation over the next few days. This should be FUN!
I just have to say… I am loving the month in review via Instagram. If you would’ve asked me what happened in March, or what I’ve been learning, or if I had any meaningful experiences this last month, I would have looked at you with a glazed stare because I literally feel brain-dead right about now. Granted, it is seven in the evening, and I haven’t eaten… and my thoughts are always a little more understandable and bright and shiny about mid morning. Anyway, making an intentional effort to take images with my phone and post them on Instagram/social media has taken on a new meaning for me. I’m able to quickly look over all the images I took in one month and can see all the memories… how much my girls are growing and changing, and because I’m the one taking them, I have memories attached to what I was feeling in those exact moments.
Don’t be fooled, though. My March was typical of any Texas suburban mom. It was spring break and instead of a ski trip or the beach, we opted to stay home and cross off all the things on Mia Grace’s wish list. Those wishes and goals are evident in many of the images of roller skating, having a ball at an arcade, spending time with special friends, and playing softball. We also started doing family dinners with my brother and sister-in-law, my nephews, and my parents. Seeing those images of the cousins together and the candid family scene warms my heart and makes me thankful I have a way to keep them forever.
What’s most interesting is that I have felt such incredible peace this month — and as I reflect on it, I realize it’s been our busiest month in a while. I think what sums up life at this moment is wrapped up in the very last image I posted this month of me, half asleep in bed with Ellie fingers on my face. Here are my thoughts from that photo straight from my Instagram feed …
Maybe in the next month I will relish in the reality of this peace… (and I mean… we must be doing something right because my girls’ clearly felt peaceful enough to video their parents’ fighting…